The best-kept secret and hardest lesson that no one tells you when you become a manager of people is this: you don’t become a great manager overnight—you have to work at it just like anything else you want to excel at. You can’t expect to instantly know everything there is to know about managing people and being a great leader just because you were given a piece of paper, a title change, or a salary increase—and no one expects that of you right away.
Most experienced leaders understand that becoming a good manager of people takes practice, perseverance, and commitment. They know that it’s not about bossing people around all the time, nor is it about being everyone’s best friend. It’s not about being stuck in the back office crunching numbers all day (at least it doesn’t have to be), and it’s not about shucking all your responsibilities onto the people below you.